Book Review: Created to Be His Help Meet

Created to Be His Helpmeet (by Debi Pearl), which I started reading back in January has been such a blessing to my life.  I have learned so many valuable lessons for my role as a wife and homemaker.  I highly recommend reading this book if you are married or planning to get married in the near future!

The book is divided into two large sections:

1. The Helpmeet: Explains what a helpmeet is
2. Titus 2: 8 practical ways to be a helpmeet taken from Titus 2:3-5

In the first section of the book, Debi Pearl goes into detail on the role that God created for the woman and how it relates to the role God created for the man.  A woman has no greater joy that to live within the boundaries of the divine calling that God has placed upon her life.  Here is a quote from the first chapter:

"If you are a wife, you were created to fill a need, and in that capacity you are a "good thing," a helper suited to the needs of a man.  This is how God created you and it is your purpose for existing.  You are, by nature, equipped in every way to be your man's helper.  You are inferior to none as long as you function within your created nature, for no man can do your job, and no man is complete without his wife.  You were created to make him complete, not to seek personal fulfillment parallel to him.  A woman trying to function like a man is as ridiculous as a man trying to be like a woman.  When you are a help meet to your husband, you are a helper to Christ."

In the next chapters she goes on to describe the character and attributes of a godly help meet.  One of my favorite things that she did in this section of the book was to describe three different types of men.  According to her they are Mr. Command, Mr. Visionary, and Mr. Steady.  She then described what kind of help meet each of these men need in order to complete them and set them free to be the men God wants them to be.  I enjoyed figuring out which kind of man my husband is, and it really help me analyze if I was treating him the way he would like to be treated.

In the second section of the book, Debi gives some very practical ways to be a help meet in every day life.  The basis of this section is Titus 2:3-5, a clear passage for wives:

"That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."

She takes each of the eight things listed above and writes an entire chapter on how to live that out.  She shows how when wives neglect to do one or more of these things, they blaspheme God's Word.  I loved this part of the book because it gave me real life ideas that I could implement now.  

The entire book is riddled with letters and examples from people's lives, making it fun and enjoyable (and at times humorous) to read! 

The conclusion of the whole book is that as wives, we have the influence to change the entire course of our marriage--whether it is for good or for bad.  God has given us the ability to persuade and influence our husbands to love us, to hate us, to be a leader, to be a loser, to become what God wants him to be, or to tear him down and manipulate him to be what we want him to be.  It was very sobering and convicting to see ways in which we take leadership from our husbands without realizing it.  

Those are my thoughts on this book.  I honestly had a hard time putting it down when I was reading it!  I hope you will considering purchasing or borrowing a copy to read for yourself!